Updated: Apr 28
Men have been taught for too long to suppress their emotions, to be strong, emotionless, and stoic. This traditional approach, however, has been shown to be detrimental, resulting in a lack of emotional intelligence and difficulty forming healthy relationships. The good news is that there is an alternative course of action: becoming a soft power. In this post, we will explore how men can employ the power of their emotions to become soft power, thereby fostering positive relationships and a more compassionate society.
1. Cultivate Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is essential for developing subtle influence. It involves being conscious of and managing one's own and others' emotions. Men can develop emotional intelligence by practicing mindfulness, recognising and labeling their emotions, and cultivating empathy for others. Men who develop their emotional intelligence are able to communicate more effectively, cultivate positive relationships, and avoid conflict.
For e.g. An emotionally competent individual may face a distant, unhappy employee. The man may utilise his empathy abilities to recognise that something is troubling the colleague instead of ignoring them or presuming they are simply having a terrible day. He might then inquire whether the colleague is alright and listen if they want to discuss. The individual may strengthen his friendship with the colleague by demonstrating care and empathy.
#TheBedardiRaja - Jai Shree Ram, Ram's emotional intelligence is demonstrated in his relationship with Sugriva by acknowledging his fear and betrayal, whom he helps to regain his rightful place as the ruler of the monkey kingdom, by building trust and empathy. Through his emotional intelligence, Ram is able to navigate complex social situations and build strong relationships with others, leading to positive outcomes.
2. Embrace Vulnerability
Accepting one's own vulnerability is another essential component of becoming a soft power. It involves expressing one's emotions in a healthy and constructive manner, as opposed to repressing them. This can be difficult for males, who are typically taught to be stoic and emotionless. Men can develop deeper connections with others, leading to more satisfying relationships and a greater sense of well-being, if they embrace their vulnerability.
For e.g. Work-related worry and stress plague an individual. He may bottle up his feelings and attempt to manage things on his own because he fears seeming weak or inept.
Embracing his vulnerability may help him open out to friends, family, and therapists. Self-compassion allows him to take pauses and seek support.
He may strengthen his connections by being more honest about his challenges. His loved ones may appreciate his honesty and sensitivity and be more inclined to support or share their troubles. This may deepen the bond and make the individual feel supported in his problems.
#TheCuriousMagician - Hare Krishna, a central character in Mahabharata, is often portrayed as a model of vulnerability and emotional openness, especially during the Kurukshetra war when he served as a guide and confidant to Arjuna, demonstrating that emotional openness and vulnerability can be a source of strength and connection.
3. Promote a Culture of Respect and Inclusivity
As a soft power, males can also promote an inclusive and respectful culture. This involves valuing and celebrating diversity, challenging detrimental stereotypes and biases, and creating safe and supportive spaces for all people to freely express themselves. Men can play an active role in promoting a culture of respect and inclusion by speaking out against prejudice and discrimination and by allying themselves with marginalised communities.
For e.g. Someone may perceive that his job lacks diversity and that some groups are ignored or discriminated against. He may advocate inclusiveness and respect instead of keeping quiet or ignoring it.
Speaking out in meetings or promoting diversity in recruiting are examples. He may also study other cultures and ideas and share this information with his coworkers to foster understanding and empathy.
The man's efforts may eventually produce a more inclusive and courteous workplace or community. He can help everyone express themselves freely by confronting negative preconceptions and prejudices, fostering diversity and empathy, and actively supporting marginalised populations.
#TheSCRedemption Om Namah Shivaya, God Shiva's relationship with his consort Parvati demonstrates respect and inclusivity, as they celebrate each other's differences and find harmony and balance in their relationship, which serves as a model for how men can promote inclusivity and respect in their relationships and communities.
To become a soft power as a man, you must cultivate emotional intelligence, accept your vulnerability, and promote a culture of respect and inclusiveness. Thus, males can utilise the power of emotions in a positive and constructive manner, resulting in more satisfying relationships and a more compassionate society. Though I am still in the process of adopting the above and evolving my understanding. It's time to abandon traditional masculinity in favour of a more inclusive and emotionally savvy outlook on life.